You rush to the bathroom multiple times a day, hoping you’ll make it in time. You laugh a little too hard and suddenly realize your underwear’s not dry. Your friends often joke about bladder leaks, then someone squeals, “I just peed!”—and everyone laughs (nervously). Your personal motto? Never pass up a bathroom.

Let’s get something straight from the beginning: sex is not a performance, and your penis is not the star of a one-man show. Yet, many men become fixated on erections, framing any difficulties as “performance problems”—as if sex were a test to pass or fail. That mindset reflects a long-standing (and outdated) idea that men are the sole “deliverers” of sex. It’s time to rewrite that script.

Dr. Janie explores how orgasms change as female bodies age, and delves into how sex should be defined.

I conducted a survey of 555 people over 60 in the U.S., asking about their sexual satisfaction

Look, the penis has a tough job. By the age of 60, you have a 60% chance of having some kind of erectile dysfunction (ED)

This may seem like a silly question, but it’s something several women in my book club said they worry about.