Let’s face it: as we get older, our bodies change. But that doesn’t mean our sex life has to slow down or become less enjoyable. In fact, it can be even more satisfying—especially with the right tools. What is the number one must-haves in your sexual wellness toolkit as you age? Lube! Yes, lube is your new best friend and can be a game-changer for your sexual pleasure. But, with so many options on the market, how do you choose the right one? Don’t worry – I’ve got tips of what to look for. Buckle up – this is going to be slippery.
WHY LUBE IS A MUST-HAVE
As you reach menopause and beyond, vaginal dryness often shows up like an uninvited house guest. Since your estrogen level drops with menopause, so too does the natural lubrication you used to enjoy. It was estrogen that kept your vaginal tissues moist, hydrated, and flexible. Now with less estrogen, everything tends to dry out. This is a normal part of aging.
You need to understand that you can be fully aroused and mentally ready for intimacy, but your vagina may still be dry. Let’s be clear: it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or with your libido. A dry vagina doesn’t reflect how you feel about your partner, your body, or your desire, it’s just biology and body changes with age. It simply means you need a little extra help.
Without lubrication, sexual activity, both partnered and solo, can lead to discomfort, pain, and micro tears in the vaginal walls, which can lead to infection. The discomfort or painful sex can make women shy away from future intimacy altogether. Don’t let dryness have that effect on your sexual life. The solution is simple: lube.
WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A LUBE
Shopping for a lube may feel overwhelming, especially if it’s not something you’ve regularly used. Here’s what to look for to ensure you’re picking the right product for your needs:
High Quality & Healthy Ingredients. Choose a lube that’s free of synthetic chemicals, artificial fragrances, and preservatives that can cause irritation. Instead, opt for natural, gentle ingredients. Drugstore lubes often contain potentially harmful ingredients, so it’s worth investing in a higher-quality product. Make sure the lube is specifically designed to enhance intimacy and is safe for vaginal or penile use. Never, ever use cooking oil, baby oil, or Vaseline. They can damage sensitive tissues and degrade condoms.
Tailored to Your Needs. Before you pick a lube, think about how you plan to use it. Are you using it with sex toys? Vaginal penetration? Oral sex? For solo play? Different activities call for different types of lubes, so knowing what you’re after will help narrow down your options.
TYPES OF LUBES: WHICH ONE IS FOR YOU?
Lubes generally fall into three categories: silicone-based, water-based, and oil-based. Each has its pros and cons, so it’s all about finding what works best for you.
Silicone-Based Lubes
If you want something that lasts long without needing to reapply, silicone-based lubes are your go-to. They’re smooth, silky, and stay slippery throughout your entire session. They’re also waterproof, so they’re ideal for shower sex. Plus, they’re typically hypoallergenic, so they’re less likely to irritate sensitive skin. Just don’t use silicone lube with silicone sex toys, as they can degrade them, leaving the toys sticky and gooey.
Water-Based Lubes
Water-based lubes are lightweight and give a natural, non-greasy feeling. They’re safe to use with all types of condoms and sex toys, including silicone ones. The downside? They can dry out quickly and may need to be reapplied mid-session or need water or saliva added. If you have sensitive skin, look for water-based lubes made with organic ingredients.
Oil-Based Lubes
Oil-based lubes have a thick, slick, moisturizing texture, but they come with some caveats. They are not safe to use with condoms or latex toys, because the lube can cause damage. Plus, oil-based lubes can upset the pH balance of the vagina, increasing the risk of infections. If you’re using oil-based lube strictly for external play (like on a penis or for massage), it works like a charm – but beware of stains on your sheets or clothes. And don’t forget to wash it off with soap and water afterward to avoid lingering residue.
LUBE BRANDS WORTH CHECKING OUT
Ready to explore? Check out brands like Tabu, Playground, Stripes, Bloomi, and Sliquid. These brands prioritize quality ingredients and offer a variety of products to suit specific needs. It might take a little trial and error, but experimenting with different types can be part of the fun!
THE BOTTOM LINE: LUBE UP & ENJOY
Lube is the key to making your sexual activity smoother, more comfortable, and more pleasurable. Use it generously and often, and let it enhance your experience.
Remember, sex can be exciting and fun at any age, and with the right lube, you’re bound to have a good time!
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